I Haven't Felt Like Blogging Lately But...

1. I got a call from a recruiter about a job thats damn near my *almost* dream job. Can you imagine doing the same thing that you are doing right now, but making 50% more than you are now? Now you see why I said that it's a dream job. The recruiter has submitted my resume to his client and now I just have to wait. If I get this job, I can be out of debt in 2 years.

2. I got gifts for Christmas this year. I was mildly shocked since I haven't gotten a gift in about 3 years.

3. I'm so damn horny that i'm starting to get the shakes. It's been a month and a half and I have 2 and a half to go before my birthday (that's when I will allow myself to have sex again).

4. I have $1XX dollars in my checking account. It seems as though everytime I get back on board something *brakes for the car, old power bills* comes along that knocks me back overboard. I realized that I am living paycheck to paycheck because of how I pay my bills. I overpay on debt and it leaves me with little else until the next payday. I think i'm start giving the cards the minimum until I can save a little chunk of change.

5. I need to divorce all of my exes for good. I'll explain that later in another post.

6. I'm sick of going to clubs. I have honestly gotten bored with it and decided to take a break from that also. I may go every now and then, but clubbing will not be my #1 social activity.

7. I can't decide what to do for my 30th birthday. Should I go on a trip or should I buy a 42 inch flat panel television?

8. I have had it up to here with my apartment complex. Can you believe that I woke up this morning to a soaked bedroom carpet? It seems that the roots of the tree in front of my apartment are causing problems and when it rains, water can run into my apartment. I'll be making a list of all of the issues that I have had since I moved in and talking to the complex manager on Monday. I'll be damned if I am not compensated for all of this shit somehow. I can't wait to move. I hate this place.

9. I finally have waves in my hair. It took a while, but i'm all waved up now. I finally feel like all that brushing, washing, tying up, and moisturinzing was worth it. Now can I keep it up is the question.

10. Is it possible for regular people like me to win the lottery? It seems like only senior citizens or trailer park dwellers or the already wealthy win the fucking lottery. I need to stop giving my money away on the lottery and start back going to the casino.

On Second Thought

I have been thinking about my last post since I hit the "publish post" button, and I have changed my mind on one thing. I'm gonna discontinue sex and limit drinking, but I am going to continue to date. The old adage, "a closed mouth doesn't get fed" kept coming to mind.

How can I find a what I want if I close myself off from it? I do enjoy dating and going out with guys, but what I didn't enjoy was the feeling of committment that I had to call them back, or have sex, or go out on a second date. I'll just enjoy myself and see what happens in the future.

That's All.

Ignoring the Naysayers

Has anyone ever noticed that people sometimes don't want to support a seemingly positive change in you? Or they don't believe that you can keep a commitment to yourself that you have proclaimed to keep. Or they try to talk you out of doing something that you know will benefit you?

Case in point here. I have discussed with a few people that I am on a journey to cut drinking to a minimum (1 drink per week), not have sex, and not date or meet anyone new for at least 4 months. Can you believe that most of the responses have been of the "you aren't gonna make it" tone? At first, I couldn't believe what I was hearing, but the more I thought about it, this happens all of the time. I think people are just conditioned not to have faith in other people.

I was told by one person that he doesn't expect me to last a month without sex, excessive drinking or dating. I didn't get upset or anything because maybe I can't last. But I left him with an "I can show you better than I can tell you". But I really didn't have to say that because I only have to prove my strength and resolve to myself. But just a little support from the bastards would be nice.

I make it a point that when people say that they are gonna do something that they think will improve their well being, to give a few encouraging words even if I don't believe that they can do it. Why? I do it because some people need a little push to get started. You may have that person who wants to start an exercise regimen, but hasn't gotten started. A little encouragement may be what they need to get them started. Not doubt and negativity.

I don't want to make this a long and drawn out "fuck the naysayers" post, but that is just what I am saying. When you do something to improve yourself, fuck the naysayers and do it to prove them wrong. Do it to make you a better person and let the outside forces see that you are stronger than they think you are.

What She's Really Thinking

I bet these captions reflect what Condi is really thinking.

Doesn't her face just say it all?????????????????????????

I'll Be Taking My Own Glasses

As many hotels as I have stay in while working, I have never even thought about this. It makes me appreciate the Hampton Inn. They only use wrapped plastic cups!


http://www.myfoxcolorado.com/myfox/pages/Home/Detail?contentId=4925520&version=1&locale=EN-US&layoutCode=VSTY&pageId=1.1.1

Do We Need To Plan?

Most of us want a partner, boyfriend, lover, husband, or whatever, but do we ever stop to build a foundation or think of a plan of action for our relationships? I don't think that many of us do. Most often it seems that relationships fail because there was no purpose or plan on how to make it work. We go into relationships doing what we know how or what we think will work with no clear direction. But like a career or education, I think that we must have a plan of action in order to be successful.

The few Gay, Black couples I know seem to have taken their relationships in steps and appear to be successful. I have seen the following or similar model work on 3 occasions with couples who have been together 5 or more years.

First they get a dog or other pet together,
They make a verbal commitment to each other,
They then give keys to each others' dwelling,
They introduce each other to family,
They move in to an apartment or lease a house,
They then buy a house together,
They adopt or have children by one of many means,
They live happily ever after.

They all started off dating and when it was deemed time, they formed relationships and put plans into place in terms of finances, home life, children and family, and other aspects.

Has anyone else seen this model work or have any thoughts on what I have said?

LaWanda Page:The Original Queen of Comedy!

Best Drag Performance I Have Ever Seen

I ran across this while looking at the LaWanda Page clips.

Welcome to the stage... Ms LaWanda Jackson!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Face Off?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIXhigDLYBQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KfLwRpz_MGU

Who wins???????????????

A Few Things To Do

I was reading Sista Girl J's blog today about her taking the time to clean her mental house and it got me to thinking about how over the last month, I have been thinking the same thing. I was also watching Madea's class reunion and she mentioned something to the effect that when you turn 30 your way of thinking starts to change. She's right about that. About 2 months ago it kinda hit me that i'm about to turn 30 in March of 2008. I noticed that immediatlely my mind went into another mode. I've noticed that:

I don't worry about things like I used to.

I don't snap on people unless they really deserve it.

I think about my spirituality a lot more.

I am a lot calmer about situations.

I just don't care about small things that really don't matter.

I handle problems instead of worrying about them.

I've realized that I have to get real with myself and not let life get to me, but let me get into life. I have to think more about being happy overall than about being happy just for the moment or the evening. I have to think about how I am going to handle my future instead of it handling me.

As far as how I am going about changing things is to actually start planning. I find that I think about doing things about my future, but never plan on how to go about the actions. I need to start planning. I have no plan on a career. I have no plan on retirement. I have no plan on going back to school. I don't have a plan to do much but keep existing. I'm getting too old for that.

There are 3 things that I plan to do initially that I hope will help me out. One of them is to stop drinking. I went to the doctor last friday for a checkup and my blood pressure was 155/100. I was given an additional medication, so now I take 2 of them a day. I don't drink often, but when I do, it's quite a lot. A least 5 or 6 drinks. No more liquor for me. In fact, this past weekend, I only drank water and cranberry juice. I also noticed that I had just as much fun not drinking. I was also a lot calmer than I usually am. So, if it's not a glass of wine every now and then, i'm not drinking it.

The another thing that I plan to do is abstain from sex for a while. I think about sex a lot and have had sex with more people this year than I really needed to. In the 6 months of 2007 that Hollywood and I were NOT together, I was giving Blanche Devearauex a run for her money. I think about sex quite a lot like any other man, but I tend to act on it more than the average dude. There are at least 6 people in my phone that I can call right now to have sex with. I will be deleting those as soon as I finish posting this. No more maintenance men, Justins, backup plans, spare tires or anything. I am hoping that by abstaining from sex, I will forget about it *or at least not think about it as much*. Maybe then I will be able to focus on something else. Besides, sex i've noticed that i'm not that much into it anymore. Dare I say it, but sex has gotten boring.

The last thing that I plan to do is stay off of The Toy Store and Family Guide websites. I spend at least 2 hours a day chatting with dudes off of there. I may only meet 2 of 10 that I chat with, but 2 hours a day is still too much. I could be doing something else. And staying off of those will also help me with the item mentioned above since they make it sooooo easy to meet a dude for sex.

I sure that there are a few more things that I will come up with, but I think that I will start with these for now.

My 3 Dates

So on the last post, I stated that I had 3 dates planned for this past weekend. Well 2 of them didn't happen because of scheduling conflicts. I really wasn't upset because I have come to expect things like these.

The first guy had to cancel on Friday because he didn't think about the fact that he didn't get off work until 8pm. And he also failed to mention this to me during the planning stages of the date. Now, by the time he got off, went home to freshen up, and got to me, I guess it would have been about 11pm. I was supposed to meet some friends for a spades party at 11pm, so I wanted to start the date about 7pm and still catch the spades party. So we cancelled and I cancelled him. I talked to him on Saturday and didn't even mention it. He's been calling me, but I haven't answered and don't plan to. I hope he gets the hint.

The second date was with a dude that I met at the The Toy Store. We planned to meet in Downtown Decatur at a popular Mexican restaurant at 2pm on Saturday. When he told me that the restaurant closes at 3pm, I suggested 1pm. We met up and actually had a pretty nice time. We just talked about different things over lunch and then walked around the city for a while. Dude was cool, but there just wasn't any chemistry between us (at least I didn't feel any). After I got in my car, I called him and thanked him for the date.

The third date (Sunday)was aborted because the guy is a workaholic. We planned to just have dinner at his place on Sunday. He got so into grading term papers and what not that he fell asleep and didn't get to the grocery store. What really gets me is that he didn't call to tell me about this until last night *I let him tell my voicemail*. I guess i'll be deleting his phone number also.

Even though 2 of the 3 dates didn't occur, I still had a good time this weekend hanging with friends at playing spades, bowling, and clubbing.

But I think that I am gonna go light on the dating for the time being. My mind really isn't into trying to meet anyone for anything other than a date or 2, so oh well. But if a good guy should come along, then i'll think about changing my mind.