What If...

I got this over at Thaddeus's blog and just felt the need to answer these questions even though I don't have a partner and haven't had one in 7 years. I'll answer each question with a "probably" or "most likely" because I can never for sure what I will do.


There are three things that if a man does not know, he cannot live long in this world: what is too much for him, what is too little for him and what is just right for him.Lets answer some what if questions:

1. What if you come home early one day and find a built and buffed good looking sexy brother watching television with your partner? You don't know this man from Adam?

Well, I would honestly be shocked. Hopefully, if my partner is my partner, I would know all of his friends. But me being me, the look on my face would be enough for my partner to know what I was thinking. I would probably just continue on with whatever plan I had for when I got home.

2. What if you over hear your partner on the phone telling someone that he can't wait to see him later?

I'd most likely ask him who it was he couldn't wait to see.

3. What if you find condoms and a half-empty bottle of KY lube in your partner's gym bag that you know he didn't use with you?

I don't think that I would be searching my partner's gym bag to begin with. But if I did and I found those items, I would probably sit them on dresser of our bedroom for him to see and then just wait for him to explain. If I felt he was lying, I would go straight Tasha Mack on that ass!!

4. What if you see your partner out with another man you don't know? You are surprised to see him because he told you he was going to be at his parent's house, or working late.

I would probably walk up and introduce myself the the stranger and then ask my partner if his visit to his parents home was cut short or if he got off work earlier than expected. Then I would most likely tell him to pick up some milk and eggs on his way home. Once again, the look on my face would tell him what I was thinking.

5. What if your desire for sex with your partner is gone? There is no longer a spark in your sex life.

There is no "probably" on this one. I would talk to him about it.

6. What if your partner stays out all night long and comes home in the morning and doesn't say anything about where he's been?

I would probably just get up the next morning and cook him breakfast.

7. What if you find out that your partner has been having sex with your best friend, or with his best friend?

I have no fucking idea what I would do. But I can imagine that there would most likely be some violence involved. I can even front on that one.

8. What if your partner, who has only been a top or bottom in your relationship wants to flip and do the opposite?

Hopefully I'll have a partner who isn't all top or all bottom. But if I did, I would probably comply with whatever it was he wanted.

9. What if your partner wants you to attend a sex party with him?

He would know better than to even think about asking me something like that.

Be honest with yourself as you have fun with these. Hopefully you will get a new feel for how you can respond to the unexpected.

Something I've Been Checking Out..

...has me truly entertained! And I am sooooooo glad that I ran across it.

It's called FIVEBLACKGUYS on Youtube. I ran across it while watching a video that ShawnQT posted on his Facebook page and have been laughing and thinking every since.

They have about 280 videos so i've been watching them when I have time. But my favorite funny video date is the one that I watched on Shawn's Facebook page. It's a spoof of The Color Purple and it is funny as hell!!

My favorite serious video to date is Dating the Person or HIV. It's one of those that makes you realize that you don't know what you would do until you are put into a situation.

This week, starting today, they are celebrating their 1 year anniversary I just want to spread the word about them. Check them out.

No Longer Will I...

...be the doer in my relationships. Whether they be platonic, romantic, or familial. I just refuse to do it anymore. I ALWAYS the one doing all the work to keep shit going and I refuse to do it anymore. I fucking refuse. People in my life are going to have to do as much for me as I do for them or they can go to hell.

...be the conformist in my relationships. Whether they be platonic, romantic, or familial. I just refuse to do it anymore. I am not a conformist in the sense that I do what everyone else does. I am a conformist in that I attempt to change myself to suit other people or to keep the peace. NO MORE!! NOPE! ABSOLUTELY NOT!

...be the only problem-solver in my relationships. Whether they be platonic, romantic, or familial. I just refuse to do it anymore. When someone has an issue, I do what I can to help them, sometimes hurting myself to help them. I do this even when they aren't doing anything to help themselves. This here will stop. If you aren't going to do for yourself, then don't even think to ask me for help.

...be the driver in my relationships. Whether they be platonic, romantic, or familial. I just refuse to do it anymore. I've dated dudes who have never been to my house to see me. I have friends who have never been to my house to see me. I have family members who have never been to my house to see me. From now on, you will have to put forth some effort to get in your car and drive that ass to see Norris.

To keep it simple, i'm just realizing that I do too much for others and don't get much in return. It's not other peoples's doing. It's mine and I know that. But people have gotten used to me being there for them. The problem with that is that I feel that they aren't there for me.

There are some changes coming up for me and my focus is to make life comfortable for me and not others. And if that means being called a bitch or losing some relationships, so be it.

This Was Quite Interesting...

...but i'm not shocked that there was only 1 brotha with a truly enlightened opinion.

This is F-ing Stupid