Monday, November 30, 2009

I Just Realized That...

...whenever I start dating someone consistently I gain weight. I stepped on the scale last week and it read 202lbs. Yes people, I have gained back 10 of the 14 lbs that I lost over the summer.

I thought about way back in college when Dreads and I started dating, I gained weight.

When Chicago and I started dating back in 02, I gained weight.

When VP and I started fucking, I gained weight.

When Hollywood and I started dating I gained weight.

When CC and I started dating, I gained weight.

And now that GE and I have started dating, I have gained weight.

I started wondering why the hell this happens and it didn't take long to figure it out. Most dates include food and drinks. Plain and simple. The other night, GE and I were watching TV and he asked me about 10 times what we were going to eat. He ordered a pizza and wings and we ate most of it. The night before that, we hung out with some of his friends. Between us, we had 6 martinis. He had 4 and I had 2.

And i'm wondering why I have gone back over 200lbs. This shit is going to have to stop. We are going to have to do things that don't involved food and alcohol. I'm going to try to plan dates that involve some kind of physical activity (and sex doesn't count). But hell, what date can you do that involves physical activity?

Any ideas?

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Blogger YBandDL Bad PYT In the Closet at Hearbreak Hotel said...

Isn't that called happy weight?...Or no?

I thought that some couples gain weight, because they are happy. I know a lot of married folk, that as soon as they said their I Do's, they gained weight, I always heard it was because they were happy.

I guess you are just happier when you are in a relationship, so you gain weight.

What is wrong with having sex as a calorie burner?

I have always heard you can burn fat off having lots of sex. Now I doubt that is completely true, but I know...if done right, it can be a nice little workout.

In fact there is this website I go to sometimes, that gives you a calculator of how many calories you burn off, doing activities and it has sex. It's called
I went to it and calculated how much calories you would burn off, based off the weight you mentioned. For 30 minutes of foreplay and 30 minutes of sex, you would burn off 257 calories. That's not bad. It might burn off those martinis at least. I hope you was the designated driver that night, by the way.

Anyway it gives you other activities too. Like car washing? You and him can wash your cars together. I once had this guy I met over the Internet. Ask me would I like to come over with my car, and we could wash our cars together. I was completely honest with him. I hadn't actually washed my own car since high school, and that's been a minute now. I mean I might have a couple times post graduation, but I can't remember when. Apparently he thought that sounded bougie. I was just being honest. I let the former drug addicts and alcoholics wash my car. They do a great job and it pays for their living expenses in the church run rehab. I'm giving back to the community! However even after that he kept talking about us washing our cars together. Try that.

There is cooking together healthier, you once mentioned cooking healthier, when you lose before, are you still cookign healthy, if not do it now except with him.

Also try going to the gym together. That also can be like a date. Now I hate seeing couples at the gym,I hate goign to the gym period now, but I especially hate going and seeing coupel all over the joint, but I'm sure it works. Working out together and spending times. now at the gym I go to Fridays it date night at the gym. I hate it, couples every where. Work out together and maybe play a little touch and feel in the sauna!

3:54 AM, December 01, 2009  
Blogger dating london said...

or move in and get a dog, this might be a bigger commitment than you want to give though! or go out walking together, it's amazing how many calories walking burns, especially when you take a picnic and stop somewhere secluded for a little outside action!

My husband and i met through a London dating site and our shared interests were all outdoors stuff so we get away for mini breaks to devon and nature spots and walk and usually find somwhere to get intimate which is always fun, even when it rains!

5:04 PM, December 01, 2009  
Blogger Kyon Saucier said...

Okay so the next date you go on should be a hike or a long walk somewhere where you guys can just talk and such

8:13 PM, December 01, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have seen couples married and all of a sudden they gain weight. Some people may say you are happy but no weight is good. Maybe you should try extra work out routines when you do start dating.

9:37 PM, December 01, 2009  
Blogger UrSoVain said...

Well if thats the case then i'll be single forever. I'll take that over a fat profile and not liking what i see in the mirror... no matter how fine he is with our body types..

4:54 PM, December 05, 2009  
Blogger Chet said...

Nothing wrong with gaining some weight, it can be a sign of "good living." Now that you are dating and gaining weight, create dates that involve losing weight and toning up.

Gym dates, swim dates and long walks after dinner. Hit the basketball, tennis and or other courts as a couple and work those calories off.

12:26 AM, December 07, 2009  
Blogger E said...

You are so right...most dates do involve food at some point. There's a lot of different non-food activities you can do such as bowling, window shopping, working out but inevitably spend enough time with a person and you'll eventually want to eat.

I guess what it'll come down to is making smarter eating choices...easier said than done of course. And a lot of it is definitely common sense...limiting the number of slices of pizza for example. Of course maintaining a good workout regimen will help as well.

It helps if your partner is on the same page but it's not a requirement.

Good luck with trying to control your weight while dating. :-)

9:16 PM, December 07, 2009  
Blogger yet another black guy said...

If he likes the weight and it looks good on you then flaunt that extra ass :)

or try to find places that eat healthier and/or substitute beer for hard alcoholic mixed drinks. You'll sip it, drink more water and avoid the excess sugar.

5:29 AM, December 12, 2009  
Blogger Toy Couture said...

I know exactly where you're coming from. I too balloon when dating. So I think I'm going to stop! LOL

5:30 AM, December 12, 2009  
Blogger thegayte-keeper said...

I know exactly what you are talking about you guys join the gym together and do some cardio around the neighbourhood?

1:26 PM, December 13, 2009  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel you my dude. I simply had to make a choice to NOT GO OUT. I cook at home or will cook at dudes house.

The minute i read this I was like, I gues I'm nto alone in my struggles

1:47 AM, December 15, 2009  
Blogger ToddyEnglish said...

Have you two ever considered ballroom dance?
I really enjoy it. It is a wonderful cardio sans the monotony. Granted, I've never had weight issues but I love to dance...A fun way to just stay healthy and fit TOGETHER. =)

1:44 PM, December 25, 2009  
Blogger Blog Editor said...

Hey when is the next blog entry coming

3:53 AM, December 31, 2009  

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