Terrible Too

He's/She's just too...

How many times have you heard this statement when someone was talking about someone that they were dating or were thinking about dating? How many times have you said it? I can admit that there have been several brothas that I have dated that I have said this about. It seems that we have these standards that we only discover when someome does them.

We find out that he's/she's too short, too tall, too broke, too wealthy, too far away, too smart, too dumb, too shallow, too ugly, too pretty, too much of a woman, too much of a man, too giving, too selfish, too much or a moma's child, too much of a hoe, too religious (or not enough), too lazy, too energetic, too stupid, lame, too boring, too old, too young, just too damn anything.

We may not see these issues as deal breakers when a situation begins, but they will arise. But I have come to realize that recognizing these things allows us to see what we do and don't want in a relationship. It allows us to see what we will or will not compromise on. Now this is not to say that we can't deal with some issues, but just to say that we should recognize each situation for what it teaches you.

That's All