Which Method to Use
Back when I was in College at the illustrious University of Alabama, I learned about the Rifle Method and the Shotgun Method of finding things. I'll explain what they are. Imagine a hunter out hunting for deer. If he were to use a rifle to shoot at deer, then had had better be a good shot because a rifle only fires one bullet. But there is a better chance of fatally wounding the deer. On the other hand, if he were to use a shotgun, his aim does not have to be as good. Shotguns fire hundreds of buckshots in a wide area, increasing his chances of wounding the animal. The downside is that the wounds may not kill the animal because they projectiles are not as large. So which one is better?
When it comes to dating, some people use the rifle method. They pick one person and concentrate on that person in attempt to make the situation work. Others use the shotgun method. They date multiple persons hoping to find that one in the bunch that fits his/her needs, wants and desires. Some people have fund success firing the rifle and some find success shooting the shotgun.
Me, I have always used the rifle method without even thinking about it. Although I have been known to fire at 2 deer at one time. What always seems to happen is that I concentrate all of my attention on this one dude and get attached a little to quickly. I start imagining life together and all of the things that go with it and try to steer the dude in that direction. As we can see, it hasn't worked for me.
But I have realized that I haven't taken the time to enjoy dating. I need to start using the shotgun method of dating. I need to be more like a white woman and actually go out on dates with more than one man. That way I don't feel like i'm making any kind of committment to anyone other than the 2-3 hours of the date. I don't have to call him or be available to him unless we are planning to go out. I have to stop committing myself to someone just because I like them. I have to start shooting my shotgun.
So I have 3 dates lined up for this weekend. One Friday, 1 Saturday, and 1 Sunday. I have expressed to each of the guys that it's just a date and that's it. Our only purpose is to have a good time, and if we enjoy each other, we can plan a second date.
I'll let you all know what happens.
When it comes to dating, some people use the rifle method. They pick one person and concentrate on that person in attempt to make the situation work. Others use the shotgun method. They date multiple persons hoping to find that one in the bunch that fits his/her needs, wants and desires. Some people have fund success firing the rifle and some find success shooting the shotgun.
Me, I have always used the rifle method without even thinking about it. Although I have been known to fire at 2 deer at one time. What always seems to happen is that I concentrate all of my attention on this one dude and get attached a little to quickly. I start imagining life together and all of the things that go with it and try to steer the dude in that direction. As we can see, it hasn't worked for me.
But I have realized that I haven't taken the time to enjoy dating. I need to start using the shotgun method of dating. I need to be more like a white woman and actually go out on dates with more than one man. That way I don't feel like i'm making any kind of committment to anyone other than the 2-3 hours of the date. I don't have to call him or be available to him unless we are planning to go out. I have to stop committing myself to someone just because I like them. I have to start shooting my shotgun.
So I have 3 dates lined up for this weekend. One Friday, 1 Saturday, and 1 Sunday. I have expressed to each of the guys that it's just a date and that's it. Our only purpose is to have a good time, and if we enjoy each other, we can plan a second date.
I'll let you all know what happens.
Labels: Dating
posted by That Dude Right There at
11/29/2007 11:45:00 PM
20 Comments:
Enjoy...you deserve a good time... love doesn't fall in your lap, but you don't have to rope it down and drive a stake through its heart either. Futures and relationships are built one date at a time.
That's good to hear. Definitely have a good time this weekend. I've done the shotgun thing for a while and if nothing else, it gives you a good variety...:-)
That sounds like a good plan to me. Like you aid you told each guy up front that it just a date and nothing else. Enjoy your dates and have a good time.
That's they way to do it! Have fun!
Too much confusion, I thought in dating you must give your UNDIVIDED attention.
3 dates in 3 days..well go the heck on.
Hopefully, you're not footing the bill for all three... unless you asked them out first.
Nothing to do but be yourself, have a good time. Even I could do that! Will watch all this closely on Monday.
Good for you! This is the method I am adopting. As a friend of mine explained, it's easier to spot crazy and inconsistent when you have others with which to compare.
I like that analogy, rifle vs shotgun. I believe in enjoying dating, that's the whole purpose. 3 dates this weekend, you move fast.
**thinking the revolver or machine gun method might be way too -too much**
I'm definitely a rifle type of guy.
I like the analogy. I will use it soon with someone I know. TX.
the shotgun method is fun...
I tend to use both! If I can't hit em' directly i will try my best to fire a spread of bullets. I'ma get what i want one way or the other! lol
3 dates - shit?!?! Well, how'd they go?
Shoot that shotgun, mister. It okay to wound them. See which one limps away and which one stays to be nursed and cared for for life. Enjoy your dates.
University of Alabama... I knew there was a reason i didnt like u
Damn, this is like a soap opera. I can't wait for the next episode.
now what an idea. I never thought of it like that shot gun or rifle.
I shall ponder this for a second...
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