"Even If It Is A Damn Lie"
I remember a scene in "Waiting To Exhale" after John leaves her, where Bernardine says that she wants her husband and her life back even if it is a damn lie. Tonight I felt what she felt.
I just wanted someone to tell me that they loved me. I wanted someone to hold me tight and let me hold them back. I wanted to feel some emotional and physical love. If it had happened, I probably would have cried. The strange thing about it is that I would not have cared who it came from. It could have come from an ex-boyfriend or a new date. I just wanted to feel it. Even if it was a damn lie.
Is love as powerful as we think, or do we give it that power?
I just wanted someone to tell me that they loved me. I wanted someone to hold me tight and let me hold them back. I wanted to feel some emotional and physical love. If it had happened, I probably would have cried. The strange thing about it is that I would not have cared who it came from. It could have come from an ex-boyfriend or a new date. I just wanted to feel it. Even if it was a damn lie.
Is love as powerful as we think, or do we give it that power?
posted by That Dude Right There at
7/23/2006 02:51:00 AM
10 Comments:
I think that love is as powerful as we think and that we give it that feeling because we have got to work at it to keep it going strong.
Well I Love You!!!..
Love in all it's different forms is a very powerful thing.
Even tho you said you wanted interaction even tho' it may have been a lie, you don't. It's not worth it if it's not real at that time.
@David-Love is so powerful to me because it's the one thing that I feel is lacking my life.
@Ant-You better love me!
@ladynay-Have you ever been hungry and just ate something to tide you over until dinner. That's what it felt like I needed.
Awww boo boo ... you know I LOVE YOU!
I think its both. When you are in love, it overcomes you. It is like saying you realize some stuff about you and your lack of limits when you are in love.
But, I think when we are not in love, we want it so much (or think we need it) that we give it this greatness; that with love we will be complete, fulfillied and healed. Sometimes, all we need to make those things happen is to believe it within self and allow ourselves to be human or alone.
I will have to say that I feel you on so many of your posts. The same is for this one. I feel like that a lot. I believe that love is powerful. We all need love or the feeling of being loved. Love comes in many forms (family, friends, significant others, etc). Your post leads me to believe that you are talking about a significant other. Again, I REALLY feel you on that. I will say that the other loves (family and friends) are more important than this one. Maybe we give power or too much power to significant other love. However, it is still a part of many of our lives. Sometimes, I want someone to tell me that they love me (intrinsically) so bad that I can scream.
I heard something this weekend that I've heard before in different ways but it really hit me. He said that we really don't see the world as it presents itself. We see the world in the way the we (as an individual) are. In other words, if you are loving then you see love. If you are hateful, then .... With that being said, the fact that you desire to be loved says that you are a loving person. You see love in the world and you want some.
sometimes we just want the fantasy ... like you said, you wanted to be able to hold and be held regardless if it was an ex or a new date ... that would be pacifying yourself for the idea of love ... one time Janis Joplin said, "It may not of been the real thing, but it felt like love to me ... and that's good enough."
Love is that powerful. Its one of those forces that can often be imitated but never duplicated. It is so powerful by itself and then when we touch it, one of two things happen. If its a genuine touch, then the power grows stronger, but if it is one of those forced unsincere touches, it crumbles and breaks. So so very sensitive.
I believe on some level everybody wants to love and be loved.
I think when it is a sincere and honest love, a warm and inviting love, a meaningful and fulfilling love....When it's a real and true, love it can be very powerful.... There's nothing like it when it happens....When love takes over, it's a beautiful thing. However, it seems when we don't have it, or when what was once a good love turns bad, we just want the feeling or the security of being in love. We want a reminder or placeholder. It's like an illusion. But in the instance, it feels like it would suffice.
Clay hit it right on the head....
I've fell into that trap where I wanted the lie because I was feeling that way. Especially when i was younger...and it opened a whole lot of crazy.
You get better when you realize finally that love from yourself is the only love you really need......but sometimes you do forget.....
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