Thursday, March 22, 2007

The Nieces, the Ex, and The Weekend

Since my brotha is in Korea until June, my Sister-in-law has had their 2 daughters on her own and hasn't had a break. Last Tuesday was her birthday and I decided to give her that much needed break. I called her up and told her that I would pick the girls (ages 4 and 7) up on Saturday morning and keep them until Sunday evening.

On Friday morning, my ex, Dreads decided that he wanted to come to Atlanta and wanted to stay with me. I told him that I would have my nieces for the weekend, but he was welcomed to stay anyway. When he got in on Friday night, he took me out to dinner at Goldfish where we were greated by what were to become frequent strange looks from strangers. It was a pleasant dinner aside from people looking at us as though we were a black gay couple or something.

After dinner we decided to hit up a club even though I had to get up at 7am and drive 100 miles south to pick up the little ladies. We made it to Tower II about 12:30 and it was already crowded as hell. Surprisingly, I only had 1 drink and 1 beer *You can tell me how proud you are of me* and had an all right time. I did get a lot of attention because my t-shirt said "I may not be Mr. Right, but I will fuck you til he shows up". One lady even wanted to take a picture so that she could post it on her blog. Overall I had a pretty good time even though I was having some allergy issues and had to keep running to blow my nose. After the club, we just went to the house and fell asleep.

When I woke up, I hit I-75 south to Warner Robins to pick up my nieces and when I got there, they were packed and ready to go. My plan was to take them to the Georgia Aquarium and then come home and watch 2 movies and then on Sunday, take them to visit my brother and then for ice cream.

When I got back to Atlanta, Dreads said that he had not been to the aquarium and wanted to go. I am glad that he did because I needed the help cause B and J are a handful. I'm a pretty smart person, so I got the tickets online so that I wouldn't have to wait in line with the commoners. And let me tell you, when we got downtown, the line was a mile long. Since we were early, we went to the CNN center to get something to eat. And that's THEY started. THEY would happen to be the strange looks that we kept getting from people. I guess people didn't know what to think of 2 black men with 2 little girls.

And you can guess that I played right into the husband+husband+2 kids role. We walked with all of us holding hands or with him holding the 4 year old and me with the 7 year old riding on my back. We had strangers taking pictures with all 4 of us included. We sat down with the girls at a table and had lunch as though we were any other family. It think that we really did it when I got up and got J out of Dread's lap so that he could eat his lunch. And it was really cute how the girls interacted with both of us as though we were their actual parents.

After lunch, we went on the to the aquarium, but of course we were over and hour early, so we just went to the jungle gym at Centennial Olympic Park in downtown Atlanta, which is across from the aquarium. We let the girls play around a little while while we waited and they seemed to have fun. But you can guess that I was watching them like a hawk. I'll be damned if someone was gonna snatch these 2 and run. It was funny when I took them to the restroom and told they wanted to go in alone. I told them ok, but I would be standing outside the door and if anyone said anything to or touch them, to scream as loud as they could. B asked me if she could practice screaming while we were walking to the pavillion. I had to laugh at that one because she was serious as a heart attack.
When we all finally made it to the aquarium, we breezed right in and the girls went crazy asking quesitons. "Uncle Norris, why does that whale have a big body and a small head?" "Uncle Norris, where do starfish come from?" "Uncle Dreads, can I touch the sea lion?" "Uncle Dreads, why isn't the sea otter moving? Is he dead?" We answered all of the questions that we could, whether the answers was accurate or not. And they seemed to be satisfied. We took plenty of pictures because B has her own digital camera at 7 years old! They were simply amazed at all of the different types of sea life and I could tell on their faces that they were enjoying themselves. But can you believe they they said that they were tired after only 3 of the exhibits? So we loaded them up in the Expedition *I can see why parents drive big SUVs now* and hit it to the crib. Before I could even get on the interstate, they and Dreads were asleep.
As soon as we got home, I put them in the bed and I took a nap myself because all of that walking and all of those back rides had worn me out. But I had to make sure that they were asleep before I could fall asleep. Finally when they stopped squirming and fell asleep, I fell asleep ON THE FLOOR for about and hour. I figured that they would wake up and we would watch a couple kiddie movies and eat pizza. Unfortunately, they didn't wake to up on their own so I woke them up myself so that they wouldn't wake up in the middle of the night. We ended up watchin "Open Season" and "Over the Hedge" which I must say are 2 pretty funny movies to be cartoons. About midnight, I put them back to bed. But not before they requested that we go to IHOP the next morning.
So the next morning I was awakened to a gentle tapping on the forehead from a hungry 4 year old J. She was ready to eat. I mentioned cooking breakfast, but they looked at me like I had just told them that Barbie just had a heart attack and died. So after baths, brushing of teeth, ironing of clothes and refreshing of hair, we loaded up the truck and headed to IHOP in Marietta. Uncle Dreads tagged along also.
When we arrived, we were greeted with those same stares that we had seen the previous day. This time, I didn't feel like entertaining people because I was hungry, but the waittress did remark that "you 2 have 2 of the cutest little girls". I just smiled and said thanks. I ordered their food which included pancakes and eggs (no powdered eggs please) and chilled milk and them little gals ate it ALL. Do you hear me? ALL OF IT. After breakfast we just went back to the house and they took another nap.
After the nap, I took them to Brewster's for ice cream. I was kinda surprised that this was when they were happiest. I spent over $120 to take them to the aquarium and $40 to take them to IHOP and they were more excited about $10 in ice cream. I know where to take them next time. After ice cream, I took them home to Warner Robins to their Mom.
I gotta say that I did enjoy my time with the girls. It really reinforced my desire to have kids. But I must say that I am glad that Dreads decided to come into town and that he was willing to help me out with them. I told him thanks about 10 times. But it did make me wonder if I had it in me to raise a child or children alone. Now I have to sit and think about this for a few years since I want to adopt when I am 35 years old.
Question: Do you do a double-take when you see 2 men together with a child or children?



Blogger "J" said...

You know, as i was reading this I kept asking myself, have I ever? I have NEVER even noticed. I guess im too busy checkin the white folks and countin them (too many and i get to feelin all nervous ready to get my 9 lol) that I dont even notice. I see yall had a great time. My girls 6 and 14 loved the aquarium as well. Those giant spider crabs still haunt me. Single parenting is a bitch sweetie, but the love you have for your child keeps you going. Again glad you had a good time.

7:15 PM, March 22, 2007  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I always do a double take, but as a gay man it's because I find it inspiring. Funny thing, here in San Diego I have actually seen a couple of white gay couples with African American kids. 35 is my cut off age too. I figured if I'm still single by then I'm doing it on my own. It's just around the corner for me. Scary!!! I may be pushing it back a few years.

10:28 PM, March 22, 2007  
Anonymous Steve said...

Norris, I am so glad to hear you'd like to have kids. I've long dreamed of that, too, but it's a bitch to find another gay man who wants to be a daddy. I've had a lot of fun taking friends kids to the science museum, water parks, etc. I get along well with teens, which is kind of nice because about the time the parents hate them, I come in handy. But my favorite kids are my friends 5 (5!) 4 boys and 1 girl. They just love me to death, and we always have fun when they visit. Recently we spent a weekend together at the MegaMall in Bloomington, MN. I had a ball.

As for the stares - my friend, the father of the 5 kids, and I get lots of "you guys have the nicest kids" just like we're two dads. It's nice that people accept that more these days - almost expect it, even.

I think it's wonderful that the two of you had so much fun with the girls. I'm sure they will remember that day for a long time.

11:56 PM, March 22, 2007  
Blogger DRAMA DUPREE said...

you had a busy weekend...

10:16 AM, March 23, 2007  
Blogger Ladynay said...

If I ever see men with a kid or kids I always assume that's the dad. I think if I saw 2 black men with kid(s) I would think awwwwwwwwwwww they giving their women a break.

I love seeing men with kids anyway esp. black men. Even if it's only a man picking his child up from daycare. I may think 2 men together were a couple if they were doing the PDA thing. That would get more than 2 looks cuz I am nosey like that! LOL

10:53 AM, March 23, 2007  
Blogger Ladynay said...

Oh yeah congrats on only having one beer. Don't ask why that came to mind that I forgot to add that to my comment way after my first one *shrug* whatever.

12:18 PM, March 23, 2007  
Anonymous B. Good said...

I don't know if I've ever seen 2 men together with a child or children. I probably wouldn't do a double take, cuz I try to keep my distance from kids, lol. Never know if they're the "good kind" or the "badkind", so I just go the opposite direction. Hehe.

But I loved reading about your weekend :)

6:43 PM, March 23, 2007  
Blogger Soldier said...

this was cute. i mean, sigh... hmm... man !
lol i dont ever get like that, whats happenin to me ?
but two grown black men, havin a good weekend bein themselves, and taking care of 2 little girls, and no major drama ?
The whole group just eating, sleeping and enjoying each other's company... thats priceless man !
You HAVE to do it again, its one of those things that keep u sane

4:50 AM, March 24, 2007  
Blogger Will said...

Wow, what a wonderful story. That's the beauty of family, doing and sharing in that way. Thanks for sharing your world.

9:07 AM, March 25, 2007  
Blogger Ladynay said...

I went to the circus this weekend and saw an about 40ish looking black man with a 40ish looking white man and they had a little black boy that couldn't be more than 4. The boy was sitting in the white guys lap.

I don't think I would have even noticed them if I didn't read your post earlier that day...

Just letting you know you were thought about :-)

7:51 AM, March 26, 2007  
Blogger Trent Jackson said...


how cute...I never do a double take, I always say "Thats hawt..."

But - whenever me and my little sister go out, I get the look...and I'm alone.

I want a husband and babies now. I hate you!!! See what you did!

2:39 AM, March 29, 2007  
Blogger pono said...

were ppl lookin cuz you were still wearing that Mr Right tee shirt???

8:14 AM, March 31, 2007  
Blogger E said...

Heh...that was my question too pono.

I'm with hope has always been to start having kids around 35...and gulp I'm hitting 35 this year. I really have to get things together.

Norris, you've inspired a future post. I'm glad that weekend went well. I probably might've looked for a sec but wouldn't dare double stare as I would consider it rude.

5:16 PM, April 01, 2007  

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