Tuesday, June 06, 2006

I Love Dick. What Does That Make Me?

WARNING: This post is about gay sexual positions. It is a very open and upfront post. You may actually learn something. Read at your own risk.

In the gay world, when it comes to sex, you must be put into a category. If not, then you confuse the hell out of people. I've heard stories that back in the day (i.e. anytime before the 90s), you either took dick or you gave it. There was no inbetween. You either took dick in the ass (bottom) or you gave dick to the ass (top). Then around the 90s, gay men realized that you didn't have to be relegated to one position or the other. Thus came the role of versatile. A versatile man was neither a top or bottom. He gladly gave and received dick. Then there was the man that was a top, but would give up a little ass every now and then. He was called a verstile/top. And the man that was a bottom that gave up some dick every now and then was called a versatile/bottom. Finally, there was the man that didn't have anal sex at all, but he would suck a mean dick. He was called oral and was largely disregarded as selfish with his dick or ass.

On some occasions when a man first has sex with another man, he does not know his sexual position. He may have no clue. But on other occasions, he may know that he only wants to penetrate someome or have someone penetrate him. There are also some people who start out their sex lives in one position and switch to another. Sexual desires are fluid like that.

When it comes to myself, I have hit just about every point on the sexual position map. It all seemed to depend on who I was having sex with. There have been some men who wanted me to be their top, some who wanted me to be thier bottom, and some who wanted some versatility. I USE to be happy as long as I was getting me some tongue, dick, or ass. I don't use any of the labels mentioned earlier. I like to call myself adaptable. I can be whatever my partner wants me to be. But if forced (as if that would ever happen) to choose one, I would have to say that I was a versatile/bottom.

Most guys would never admit to being any kind of bottom even if they are. They still think in that old mentality that bottom equals feminine or weak. Well, I can tell you that it means neither. The only thing that it means is that you like to be penetrated. That's it. Nothing else to explain. Admitting that I like dick is nothing to me. Having had my share of versatility, I know that I like dick more than I like ass. When I was younger, it didn't matter, but as I got older learned that I liked and wanted one more than the other.

To be honest, when I penetrated a guy, he got a lot more out of it than I did. To me, the only good part of doing it was the end result. The orgasm. That was it. All of that work and the whole time I was doing it, I felt virtually nothing until the end. Well sometimes. A few dudes had that ass that put a grip on my dick and made my eyes go white. But on the other hand, when I am being penetrated, it feels good from start to finish. A lot of times, I can feel it all over my body. Read this post to understand that.

I think that it's because I am better at being a bottom than I am at being a top. I know what to do and how to do it to make sure that I get the feeling that I want and the same for my partner. I find that making sure that I am having a good time will ensure that he is too. I know how to arch my back according to his height. I know to squeeze when he pulls out and to relax when he goes back in. I know how to hold my legs a certain way for each position. I know to not rest on his legs when I am riding so that he can have some control. I know that when he gets his rhythm going, I have to match it with mine. And #1, I know to have a clean ass! I am better at being a bottom because I know what to do.

When I am penetrating someone, the only thing that I do it pile drive that ass. I don't know all of the different methods and all of that shit and have never wanted to learn. But all the guys that I have done seemed to enjoy it. One guy that I was dating started out penetrating me, but I did him the first time and never got any dick from him again. In fact, no one has since then.

Now as far as having a husband, I would like a guy who is a versatile/top. I may only want some booty 3 or 4 times a year, but I want him to enjoy giving me that booty. When I was with Dreads, he would do it, but he hated it. Seeing him ACT like he was dying was such a turn off. I guess he thought that if he acted like it was killing him, I would have sympathy and not want to do it again. But I would do him because he had a good, plump, tight booty. He would just have to suffer through it and I wouldn't look at his face. But I want a dude that is gonna WANT to be penetrated every so often. I like being being penertrated, but my dick is not retired!

So all in all, I like dick. Does that make me a bottom? Maybe in your book, but to me it just means that I like dick!

So all in all


Blogger Bernie said...

Interesting, and thanks for sharing all this.

Truth be told, way back when (pre-1990's), gay men weren't so hung up on labels and people did what they wanted and didn't limit or categorize themselves. There also wasn't such a preoccupation with penetration. Oral skills, including the lost art of kissing, were more appreciated.

6:36 AM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger Ladynay said...

Don't be giving away all the taking dick secrets!!!!! LOL

I find it interesting about alot of the focus was on what your partners wanted you to be...

7:06 AM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger Cash S. said...


I am also growing very tired of these labels. And I really can't stand the whole Bottom = Week or Submissive notion. That shit irritates me.

I'm like you, I'm adaptable!

8:46 AM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger kool said...

loooooved this post! you hit the nail on the head in so many areas...and thanks for the tips...LOL

10:56 AM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger Ty said...

Wow!!! Interesting post. I don't think that being a bottom makes anyone less of a man. As a matter of fact, probably more to be able to take that. Those labels just let people who may be interested aware of what they may be in for in the bed. Gay relationships are not like heteros. They pretty much know who is doing what. And although you are adaptable, which is commendable, not everyone is. Some people ONLY want to be bottom or top which is their option. Labels just help clarify a person's preference.

12:12 PM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger lj said...

Wow...I just wanted to say that was the best sex post of the year. Amen..Too many dudes are hung up on labels and there percieved roles.

9:21 PM, June 07, 2006  
Anonymous kristen said...

why am i listening to 'ms. new booty' while reading this?

that's your new name, ms. new booty!

get it right get it right get it tight

10:23 PM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger K Kaos said...

Speak on it!

11:38 PM, June 07, 2006  
Blogger E. Lewis said...

WHAT A POST!!! I loved it myslf, but like ladynay, I think you're giving away all the good secrets us bottoms hold dear. I don't like being termed as a bottom cause although I love being penetrated RARELY does that ever call for me literally being on the bottom. Most tops nowadays are lazy as hell and just want you to ride.....but that's yet another post. Perhaps in MY next post I shall give some helpful hints to all the aspiring "head hunters" out there, cause Lord knows some of the kids need some SERIOUS help in the oral department....."I could teach you, but I'd have to charge"

12:10 AM, June 08, 2006  
Blogger Soulful Real said...

I just finished posting about not wanting to be horny anymore and here you go with this post! Continue loving the dick it's hot when one can be comfortable with their sexuality.

12:32 AM, June 08, 2006  
Blogger No4real4real said...

Hail to the dick AND ass!!!

9:15 AM, June 11, 2006  

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