Give It Up, Turn It Loose
I was watching Blind Date the other night and saw something that made me wonder. There was a lady on a date who had worn nothing but pink for the past 20 years. During the date, the guy kept mentioning that it bothered him and he asked her what would it take for her to not wear pink. She told him that he could not even pay her to wear another color. She also said that any man that she was with would have to accept her pink obsession. I could tell that it truly freaked the dude out that she would rather be single than to wear any other color. Needless to say she has been and probably will be single for a long time. I thought that she was crazy. Not because she wouldn't budge on wearing pink for a man, but that fact that she had worn only that color for 20 years. But I do admire her crazy ass for sticking to her convictions and not letting a man change her life.
So it got me to wondering what I would give up to be in a relationship. In all honesty, I don't think that there is much. I am just a little to independent to just say, "well, I won't go to the casino anymore because you don't like gambling." Or "I'll drive a Hyuandai because you believe Nissans are too expensive." I would be the one to tell a dude to go to hell and take his ideas with him. Now that is not to say that I won't compromise on some things. I just won't live by someone elses rules and opinions just to be with them.
So, my faithful readers, what would you give up, or not give up to be in a relationship?
So it got me to wondering what I would give up to be in a relationship. In all honesty, I don't think that there is much. I am just a little to independent to just say, "well, I won't go to the casino anymore because you don't like gambling." Or "I'll drive a Hyuandai because you believe Nissans are too expensive." I would be the one to tell a dude to go to hell and take his ideas with him. Now that is not to say that I won't compromise on some things. I just won't live by someone elses rules and opinions just to be with them.
So, my faithful readers, what would you give up, or not give up to be in a relationship?
posted by That Dude Right There at
6/26/2006 03:20:00 PM
12 Comments:
Why do I have to give up anything? Take me as I am. I could see giving up something like smoking, but I dont smoke.
I would not give up my friends, my goals and dreams, or the things I worked hard to get before he arrived.
I'd give up poor habits and mindless obsessions and I would hope he'd do the same in return. Some things though, are non-negotiable!
For instance, I love animals and have two cats who I pamper endlessley. I dated a guy a few years ago who hates cats with a passion. He would always say to me "there's too much pussy in this damn house, let the felines go".
Needless to say, the cats are still here, he isn't!
I would gladly give up the Internet at home!
Would not give up my friends
Would give up some of my net addictions
Would not give up my morals
Would give up some control
More than that requires thought and it's too early for that...
I can easily tell you the things that I believe that I wouldn't give up. But honestly, they are all up for consideration if the right person comes along. That is if the person has a valid reason as to why I should give it up. In that case I will have to evaluate it. If it is something that, at that point, I say that I can live without, then it would be gone.
It sounds weak but just a few examples. If I say that I wouldn't give up family, and then say that my family flips out. By flip out I mean that they don't embrace my sexuality and my love for my lover, then they will have to go until they do. If I were to say my dreams. In a relationship MY dreams may change to incorporate OUR dreams.
Dont give it up...you never struck me as a quitter...well I mean there was that one time..but anyways..lol..dont give up learn from the journey..
and stop working yourself into the ground!
Good question but the truth is I honestly don't know.
Why do either of us have to give up anything. I understand compromise but does that really mean I have to give up something I love or just like. If yes then my answer is I will give up that person.
that is a bit shallow of the woman - she is obviously is living in some deep gender constructs and has no originality - i couldnt deal w/ that either ... not sure what i would give up but we all give something when we get involved w. someone
So far, I've given up clubbing it every weekend. I'd rather spend that time with him rather than have some stranger up in my face, lol
I'm also working on letting go of some of my control issues.
Not sure if I want to give up anything...but obviously if I care for the guy, I may be willing to compromise on some things.
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