Monday, June 26, 2006

Give It Up, Turn It Loose

I was watching Blind Date the other night and saw something that made me wonder. There was a lady on a date who had worn nothing but pink for the past 20 years. During the date, the guy kept mentioning that it bothered him and he asked her what would it take for her to not wear pink. She told him that he could not even pay her to wear another color. She also said that any man that she was with would have to accept her pink obsession. I could tell that it truly freaked the dude out that she would rather be single than to wear any other color. Needless to say she has been and probably will be single for a long time. I thought that she was crazy. Not because she wouldn't budge on wearing pink for a man, but that fact that she had worn only that color for 20 years. But I do admire her crazy ass for sticking to her convictions and not letting a man change her life.

So it got me to wondering what I would give up to be in a relationship. In all honesty, I don't think that there is much. I am just a little to independent to just say, "well, I won't go to the casino anymore because you don't like gambling." Or "I'll drive a Hyuandai because you believe Nissans are too expensive." I would be the one to tell a dude to go to hell and take his ideas with him. Now that is not to say that I won't compromise on some things. I just won't live by someone elses rules and opinions just to be with them.

So, my faithful readers, what would you give up, or not give up to be in a relationship?


Blogger K Kaos said...

Why do I have to give up anything? Take me as I am. I could see giving up something like smoking, but I dont smoke.

2:45 PM, June 27, 2006  
Blogger Cash S. said...

I would not give up my friends, my goals and dreams, or the things I worked hard to get before he arrived.

3:56 PM, June 27, 2006  
Blogger The Mistress said...

I'd give up poor habits and mindless obsessions and I would hope he'd do the same in return. Some things though, are non-negotiable!

For instance, I love animals and have two cats who I pamper endlessley. I dated a guy a few years ago who hates cats with a passion. He would always say to me "there's too much pussy in this damn house, let the felines go".

Needless to say, the cats are still here, he isn't!

6:59 PM, June 27, 2006  
Blogger ProfessorB said...

I would gladly give up the Internet at home!

8:48 PM, June 27, 2006  
Blogger Virginia Slim said...

I could not and would not give up classical music or opera! I've felt I've hid it in my past relationships because I didn't want to seem weak, you know? I could give up some other things... like... well, no.... well... shit, this is hard. I'd know if asked to do it. Then I can say a definite no or yes.

9:16 PM, June 27, 2006  
Blogger Ladynay said...

Would not give up my friends

Would give up some of my net addictions

Would not give up my morals

Would give up some control

More than that requires thought and it's too early for that...

6:56 AM, June 28, 2006  
Blogger Ty said...

I can easily tell you the things that I believe that I wouldn't give up. But honestly, they are all up for consideration if the right person comes along. That is if the person has a valid reason as to why I should give it up. In that case I will have to evaluate it. If it is something that, at that point, I say that I can live without, then it would be gone.

It sounds weak but just a few examples. If I say that I wouldn't give up family, and then say that my family flips out. By flip out I mean that they don't embrace my sexuality and my love for my lover, then they will have to go until they do. If I were to say my dreams. In a relationship MY dreams may change to incorporate OUR dreams.

12:57 PM, June 28, 2006  
Blogger antneya said...

Dont give it never struck me as a quitter...well I mean there was that one time..but give up learn from the journey..

and stop working yourself into the ground!

2:34 PM, June 28, 2006  
Blogger 4GOTTEN1 said...

Good question but the truth is I honestly don't know.
Why do either of us have to give up anything. I understand compromise but does that really mean I have to give up something I love or just like. If yes then my answer is I will give up that person.

5:19 PM, June 28, 2006  
Blogger The Captain said...

If someone doesn't give up something, that maybe considered at selfish. If someone refuse to compromised, that maybe considered as stubborn. How can one rationalize what is the best approach?

10:40 AM, June 29, 2006  
Blogger Clay said...

that is a bit shallow of the woman - she is obviously is living in some deep gender constructs and has no originality - i couldnt deal w/ that either ... not sure what i would give up but we all give something when we get involved w. someone

9:44 AM, June 30, 2006  
Blogger Capricorn_HNIC said...

So far, I've given up clubbing it every weekend. I'd rather spend that time with him rather than have some stranger up in my face, lol

2:34 AM, July 01, 2006  
Blogger Capricorn_HNIC said...

I'm also working on letting go of some of my control issues.

2:35 AM, July 01, 2006  
Blogger That Girl said...

Not sure if I want to give up anything...but obviously if I care for the guy, I may be willing to compromise on some things.

4:23 PM, July 01, 2006  
Blogger Bernie said...

I don't think it's about giving up things in order to have a relationship as much as it is about setting new priorities.

If for example, a person liked to be up in the clubs hanging with friends before, in a relationship those forms of socializing may now take a backburner. That doesn't mean you cut it out altogether. You just put the time spent with your new partner at a higher level of priority.

We don't stop being the people we are or having the interests that we do just because we're in relationships. We just modify our behavior to accomodate each other's needs, because we've decided this relationship is more important than all the others.

10:44 PM, July 02, 2006  
Blogger truetomerightnow said...

I don't think it's about giving up anything, rather taking an opportunity to challenge ourselves to new ideas. Hopefully our partners care enough about us to recognize that some changes are not good, either way the person with the strongest feelings wins anyway. You have to balance.

6:17 PM, July 06, 2006  

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