tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post112786611189608045..comments2023-10-26T06:53:57.208-05:00Comments on Getting Myself Together: Ulterior MotivesThat Dude Right Therehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05945947593109685871noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1128012033689675052005-09-29T11:40:00.000-05:002005-09-29T11:40:00.000-05:00OK 1st off. I missed the 1st ep of Desperate House...OK 1st off. I missed the 1st ep of Desperate Housewives. Damn Tivo. Second why have I been thinking about this issue today and now reading a post about it. Weird.ljhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09808246036442143021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127965587528084462005-09-28T22:46:00.000-05:002005-09-28T22:46:00.000-05:00I don't know. I think in just about everything we...I don't know. I think in just about everything we do, there's some kind of ulterior motive. It's just human nature I suppose. The fact that you wouldn't mind dating any of the three guys again (well except maybe Animal..*LOL*) shows that you have good tastes in guys. None of them were so offensive that you wouldn't want anything to do with them. So that's a good thing.Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02927913231608056129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127951801865013142005-09-28T18:56:00.000-05:002005-09-28T18:56:00.000-05:00I have something to say about this and I'm not qui...I have something to say about this and I'm not quite sure how to say it. There is a dynamic at work here that is really demonstrating something to me... that we (me too) remain friends with these people because that's all we were ever meant to be. The energy that was used in exploring the romantic relationship should have been used in solidifying a platonic relationship. During that time we would have found out all of the things that made it impossible for the romantic relationship to last. I think we have to learn to ignore or at least acknowledge and not act on the sexual attraction unless we establish, up front, that we want to jump off... period! All too often a relationship is based on sexual attraction and it is a recipe for disaster. When baking that cake, make sure you mix it long and completely enough so that it will rise high and not fall flat. I speak from experience.Rodneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14391954033973598892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127945704059538332005-09-28T17:15:00.000-05:002005-09-28T17:15:00.000-05:00This post is so so true. Really made me think.This post is so so true. Really made me think.Timhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09830496902018195414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127921225936455032005-09-28T10:27:00.000-05:002005-09-28T10:27:00.000-05:00I can admit that I have kept one of my ex's around...I can admit that I have kept one of my ex's around for good out of town sex. Outside of the sex he's a mess!Ladynayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13767090012719390044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127917393204942892005-09-28T09:23:00.000-05:002005-09-28T09:23:00.000-05:00interesting ... when u told me about this post las...interesting ... when u told me about this post last night i did not think for once it would be about this. <BR/><BR/>do we have ulterior motives? well yeah! i think we all do at different times in different instances.<BR/><BR/>have i ever told an ex we should be friends with the hope that we will get back together? not that i can think of. mainly because when the relationship ended it ended and if we became friends then we just did, it was not because we made an effort to make it turn out that way. <BR/><BR/>i have ulterior motives in other ways like when i meet people and i like them, i will be their friend to get to know them more to see if i could date them or if i want to go to an event and do not want to go by myself i will invite a friend, that can be considered an ulterior motive.<BR/><BR/>but in relationships, if its over its over and i try to operate in that. if it did not work, it did not work. and i have learned that from trying to break up with someone, still be involved with them, getting back together and then ending it again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14663462034592911868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127910804630175412005-09-28T07:33:00.000-05:002005-09-28T07:33:00.000-05:00I think with most of my relationships both friends...I think with most of my relationships both friends and lovers I have some type of ulterior motives. <BR/><BR/>I recently broke up with someone I was dating... and I really want to say, "hey, let's be friends." But, secretly, i know all i'm really saying is, "lets take a break and hopefully your ass will wake up and smell the damn coffee."Unconquerable Soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11145490484116821400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127866557532298952005-09-27T19:15:00.000-05:002005-09-27T19:15:00.000-05:00oh and i love desperate housewives too. bree is i...oh and i love desperate housewives too. bree is in fact my favorite :)Blushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04359961340829193889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14505243.post-1127866482617099012005-09-27T19:14:00.000-05:002005-09-27T19:14:00.000-05:00i have never read anything more honest or more tru...i have never read anything more honest or more true.Blushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04359961340829193889noreply@blogger.com