Issue #1.) Shorty says that he doesn't want kids. Now, anyone who knows me knows that having a family that includes children is my life's dream. So this poses a problem for me. But when he told me that he didn't want kids, I didn't really think about it because I know that fatherhood is about 7 or 8 years off from now. Children are not in my near future and I am not trying to get married now either. Right now, I just want to date someone and enjoy myself. So this is not really a big issue right now. But if things were to start getting serious, Shorty and I would have to talk about this further.
Issue #2.) He doesn't want to give up any booty. I think that I have thoroughly explained that I like dick, but what I have not told is that I like a little booty every now and then. I was giving Shorty a back rub and told him to turn over on his stomach. He hesitated a little and I told him that he didn't have to worry about me poking him in the ass right then. He told me that I would have to kill him first. I didn't feel like arguing then so I just continued his back rub. Later on in the night, I brought up the subject again and we talked about it. He said that he tried it in college and didn't like it and would never do it again. I left it alone.
I had a conversation with him earlier today and I explained to him that I am not
%100 bottom and that my lil man ain't retired. I'm gonna want some eventually. I asked him if he was sure that what he said was completely accurate. This time he said no and that he had thought about being a little more versatile. But he explained that he really hadn't come to a conclusion on it. I told him that I had been through this several times with other dudes and I was not gonne try to persuade anyone to do something that they didn't want to do. I just am not gonna go through that again. Nope. Not again. Normally, I would have just ended this situation, but Shorty told him to think about it and get back with me.
I like to get things like this out of the way at the beginning of any situation because I don't want to waste anyone's time, especially mine.
How do you all fee about bringing up subject like these in the early stages of dating?